Perfect is Boring

by: Camille Diomampo Sr.D

      A 52 year old woman once told me, “Boyfriends in high school are supposed to be all fun and games,” and I disagreed with utmost conviction. I will not be hypocritical and say that I will oppose my own situation. Truth be told, I’ve OFFICIALLY been with the same person for almost two years. Not once did I say being in a relationship is easy at all. But if you ask me whether high school students should involve themselves in relationships, I would say yes.

      You can be 50 and still be involved in a dysfunctional relationship. You can be 30 and still be severely affected by a broken heart. For me, it doesn’t mean that the older you are, the better you get at handling heart breaks. It still depends on the person if a relationship would be constructive or destructive to him or her. Society is so concerned about teenagers being in relationships, but they fail to notice that not all teenage relationships are actually harmful.

      Considering all the things I’ve learned being in a relationship, it would be summed up to only one thing; love should not be expected to be perfect. I’ve learned to value someone, regardless of all his flaws. I’ve learned to not to judge. I’ve learned to care about someone other than myself. I’ve learned to sort out problems peacefully. Lastly, I’ve learned to appreciate. I would admit that before all of this, I saw the world in a much different perspective. Because of this relationship, I’ve learned to love. Truly, perfect is boring. If things were too perfect then I wouldn’t have been a stronger person. Whether or not this relationship will last, I will not regret being in it for it has been helpful to me.

      For people like me, being in a relationship in high school made us into better persons. However, if such relationships should fail, always keep in mind that things don’t always happen like it they do in fairy tales. But, the unexpected turns in life is what makes us into better people.