A little girl, barely four years old, makes a mistake while reading a story book. Because of that, she heard words beyond her comprehension. She did not understand anything else but the expression of anger. The little girl continued to read her book, tears rolling down her eyes, dampening the pages. As the little girl grew up, she eventually learned what those words meant. She grew up angry, damaged and cold. She is determined not to do the same to her own children.
Every child makes mistakes. However, no child deserves to be physically or verbally battered by the same people who gave life to him or her. An iron fist instills the kind of fear that is not constructive. It distances children away from their parents. It creates resentment and rebellion against their parents. It is ironic how the effects of what some parents consider as “discipline” is the reverse of what they want to do in the first place. As a result, children usually manifest all the anger they feel towards their parents in some other way. It can be through bullying, drinking, drug addiction, and even worse, suicide. I believe that an iron fist is not the best way in disciplining children. There must be another way.
The apple does not fall far from the tree. A child will not commit such devious acts if the parents do not set themselves as the example. I believe that the only reason a child does not grow up properly, is when the parents are not good examples themselves. He or she may make mistakes, but it does not always mean he is wrong. In times like these, a child needs love and understanding the most. A child must not be put down because of his weaknesses or mistakes. Through this, a child will recognize that his parents do not condemn him. He will feel a sense of belonging, in which is the very purpose of a family.
In the eyes of a child, his parents are his heroes. However, what becomes of that child when he sees his parents as the villains?
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