Dealing with Your Wife’s Previous Husband Marriage
By Alexander Tongo
You have just made your wedding vows. You know your fiancée’s family well. You had a great wedding day. Everyone seemed happy.
Two days later, a guy knocks on your door. You open it. It is your wife’s previous husband coming to congratulate you for getting married to your wife, his old one. What do you feel about this? In addition to this, your wife is behind you, and she seems to be starting at her previous husband. She’s staring with the kind of tears that only God knows if it means joy, sadness or both.
Well, the past is the past, but some emotions stay, even if it’s just a little that’s left. But you know, they split for a particular reason. If your wife and her ex seem to feel something good and mutual, chances are, that was the feeling they were feeling when they first met before all the relationship tragedy. That is not something to be paranoid about. She’s your wife now and she must have the strongest feelings for you, her current husband. Sure, there are some things that your wife might just miss about her ex that you have a hard time filling in. They’ve had moments which might still be of much sentimental value to her. But now, you’re her man. It’s time for you to create your own set of great memories and events with your wife. You are her umbrella now. Her ex-husband is just a shadow behind her.
After saying all those, one last thing I’d to remind you is that everything I have said should not be a reason to pick a fight with your wife’s ex-husband. You could be friends. You could be acquaintances. But do not be enemies.
Marriage and Divorce by the Numbers
By Alexander Tongo
The ratio of new marriages to divorced ones is 2:1.
Sixty percent of couples between the age of 20 and 25 ends in divorce.
Fifty-nine percent of marriage for women below 18 end in divorce within 15 years.
After five to seven years, only twenty-one percent of unmarried couples still live together.
Looking Through the Eyes of Love
An interview with proud couple Joey and John Concepcion
We are here with the famous couple about their recent marriage in Las Vegas, and their advocacy about the right of homosexuals to get married.
F magazine: So, Joey and John, how long have you been together before getting married?
JI&JC: Five years!
Fm: That’s great, and congratulations by the way! Is your marriage accepted in your families?
JI: Yes, of course. They are very supportive.
JC: No... Let’s just not get into that. *laughs*
Fm: What are some of the challenges you have encountered during your path to marriage?
JI: Acceptance... People sometimes react like we aren’t humans. That hurts.
JC: It’s hard to go out together, you know. Gosh, we cannot even show our affection in public. The discrimination is excruciating.
Fm: Since you got married in Vegas, do you still hope to get married here in the Philippines?
JI: Well, I hope we can, but I don’t think the Catholic Church will let us. But we’ll fight for our love!
JC: Legally, yes of course! But in the Church, I don’t really plan to push it since I’m partly Buddhist in terms of beliefs.
Fm: In all honesty, do you think that getting married to the same sex is a sin?
JI: Well, you know it’s not really a sin because we are happily in love, and we’re not doing anything bad!
JC: I agree with John. We don’t do bad things to humanity and we help others through charities so I don’t think it’s a sin.
Fm: That is nice to hear from both of you. So thank you Joey and John for this fabulous interview! We hope to see you soon, and we hope that there will be less discrimination not just towards you guys, but towards others like you.
JI: Sure, you’re welcome and thank you!
JC: Au revoir! Ciao!
Dear Riva
An open forum with Human Relationships Psychologist Riva Riguera
Dear Riva,
You see, I think I’m beginning to fall in love with Jessica, a childhood friend of mine. The problem is I don’t even know if this is true love. Is it only infatuation, or a love that could last a lifetime? I am troubled because she may already know about my feelings. We always see each other at work. However, I am afraid of confessing. Will she like me back? I don’t want to hurt her. But, I don’t really know what I should do. What should I do?
Juan
Dear Juan,
First of all, I would like to acknowledge you for being such a gentleman. You really like care for Jessica. As a friend, you do like her. But as a lover, we’ll have to find out. It’s a good thing you’ve decided to ask advice from the expert.
Now, the million dollar question is, “Do you really love her?” As you have mentioned, Jessica is a childhood friend. This shows that you’ve already known each other for a long time. Also, you work in the same building. Both of these facts show that there is proximity and interaction between the two of you. Both of these lead to friendship and attraction. Therefore, you really do like Jessica. You really are attracted to her. But is it love?
Liking her may lead to love, but to know what kind of love it is, you must now take action. All I can do to help is explain what the possibilities are. To make things work, you should take the risk! You can start slow; tell Jessica you like her. Besides, liking is usually mutual and experiments confirm it. Discovering that someone likes you awakens romantic feelings. Therefore, be brave and confess and the rest will be history. Good luck!
Yours,
Riva
Trust Changes Everything
By Charles Malcaba
The reason why marriage issues happen between partners is because of lack of trust. Without trust between partners, their marriage wouldn’t end happily.
Trust is required between partners in order for them to work together. If their lives are full of cynicisms between them, their marriage will be nothing because in marriage, two people are united, and two people can never be united if there is no trust between them. Trust is something we earn before knowing someone, and if you think excessively a situation, then what will happen to your partner’s earned trust. What I mean is that you should not think, but know that you trust your partner before entering marriage.
As a conclusion, I think that a couple should know each other immensely, and that they should use their six months in making a stronger bond before their marriage.
Spicing Up Your Marriage
By Gealle Chan
Do you have a recent argument with your husband? Feeling a little bit sad because of this? Don’t know how to apologize? Set up a romantic dinner and discuss your argument over good food. Here are some recipes that will spice up your married life.
No time to cook for a fancy dinner? This recipe is quick and easy but it will surely make your significant other ask for more.
PASTA PERFECT
Ingredients:
· 1 can chicken, drained and rinsed
· 2-3 TBS olive oil
· 1/4 – 1/2 cup bell peppers, chopped
· 1/4 – 1/2 cup onion, chopped
· 2 small or 1 regular-sized tomato, chopped
· 1/4 stick Velveeta cheese (more, or less to achieve desired thickness)
· 1/2 cup milk (more, or less to achieve desired thickness)
· whole-wheat spaghetti
Procedure:
1. Bring water for spaghetti to a boil, and add spaghetti. Cook according to directions on box.
2. Add olive oil, peppers, and onion to second pan and sauté for 5 minutes. Then, add chicken and tomatoes.
3. In a third pan, add Velveeta and milk, stirring frequently to keep from sticking.
4. When cooked, drain spaghetti, and add to chicken and veggies. Pour Velveeta sauce on top and stir to mix.
5. Enjoy! .
Here’s another recipe that looks and tastes good!
HUSBAND'S DELIGHT BEEF CASSEROLE
Ingredients
· 1 lb. ground beef
· Garlic to taste, minced
· 1 tsp. Salt
· Pepper to taste
· 1 tsp. Sugar
· 2 (8 oz.) cans tomato sauce
· 4 green onions, chopped
· 1 (8 oz.) carton sour cream
· 1 (8 oz.) cream cheese, softened
· 1 (8 oz.) pkg. egg noodles, cooked and drained
· 1/2 c. cheddar cheese
Procedure:
- Brown beef and drain.
- Add garlic, salt and pepper, sugar, and tomato sauce.
- Cover and simmer 15 minutes. Mix green onions, sour cream and cream cheese together.
- In 2 quart casserole dish, layer ingredients in order. Noodles, sour cream mixture and beef.
- Sprinkle cheddar cheese on top. Bake for 20 minutes at 350 degrees.
- Enjoy!
Ambush Interview
By Freya Patron
We’ve spotted couples around different parks in Alabang, and we’ve asked them about what has made their marriage work out all these years!
Beth and ____ Riguera: We make sure we still spend time with each other even when we’re busy.
____ and ____ Sales: We cook for each other and massage each other. It’s the little things, really.
Angelma and Dennis Chan: We try to compromise so that we don’t argue much.
____ and ____ Concepcion: We say, “I love you” every once in a while, even in the most random times, just to simply remind each other.
Rowena and Caesar Tongo: We still talk about past experiences that made us last up to this day. It feels good remembering memories together.
Arlene and Allan Timonera: We have strong faith in God. We always pray that we make it through, and we do make it through.
Mateo and Gloria Ilano: We are patient and we understand each other.
Emmeri and Francis Patron: We’ve come to learn each others’ weaknesses, so that instead of bringing each other down, we make each other strong.
____ and ____ Malcaba: We tell each other the things we love about each other from time to time.
The Confused Wife
By Freya Patron
Never in my life have I come across the path of someone who would put magnificent and striking colors into my life of black-and-white. You must have heard this more than a dozen times, and it might be your situation, too. It is a strikingly alluring feeling to be caught in a web of a spider that plunges venom with its mighty, poisonous pinchers in your skin – and you end up liking this feeling. I suddenly began to feel that my life was complete, like the Woman with the Lost Coin, and the Missing Sheep from Jesus’ Parables. It was a beautiful feeling – it lifted me up, like nothing had ever made me feel above others before. There was give-and-take, a selfless and generous strategy that most lovers abandon. I gave my life, and my love, and the angel took it; the angel gave his life, and his love, and I took it. And it results in an ultimate splendour of happiness, and harmony, between the angel and the human lass.
But God cast Lucifer into the flames, for he had been the most infamous angel known in heaven, and he became the devil. As for me, my angel had become a human, just like me. A human who makes mistakes, a human who loses his temper, and a human who simply doesn’t live forever – just like myself.
It is different, to fall in love with a being borne by paradise, an extraordinary thing, I must say. But my greatest mistake was being the reason why he was deprived of being an angel – it is through my own fault that he was cast down, to the real world, to be a human. Yes, he is nearer, he is more real, but he is different. Suddenly, the magnificent splendour of colours that gave meaning to my drawing of life, was now dull, and back to being black-and-white. I found myself trapped in the same spider web, but as the spider grew closer and plunged its venom into my skin, I felt pain. The naïve and ugly kind of pain. The pain where little children feel when they have lost the heads of their Barbie dolls because another kid ruthlessly pulled and pulled it until it was off, and threw it into the river so his fellow kid wouldn’t find it, no matter how hard he tries. Yes, this pain was the merciless pain, alright, but I saw it coming.
As we have the Revelation in the Bible which warns us of the signs we may encounter before we are finally judged by the One who had made us, so do storybooks have “The End” marked somewhere in their pages found inside. My angel is gone from paradise, but he is here with me in the world. He is nearer – but why do I not feel any contentment, any joy? Why do I feel empty, oh, so empty, when he is right here?
It is because it was with the angel whom I have fallen for, and not the human he had become. He was never far, even when he was an angel. Because angels have wings… And he flew to me, just to be near me, to hold my face, and tell me that I’m the closest thing to being an angel, like him. I am unhappy now because he is simply a human, physically present, but his soul is dead. There is no more enthusiasm, and he has become sinful, just like me.
Is it my time to be the angel now and save him?
Being the Other One
By Freya Patron
What was I thinking?
I can't even describe what I was thinking. I gave everything, surely, I have. In return for THIS? Now, all the vows, all the affection, the passion mean nothing to me. Surely, it was quite easy for him.
I was right. I told him I know it when a person isn't sincere. And since we have been married for so long, he should have known that. Unless he never really knew me, which is apparently the case.
Fooled, fooled for so long. I can't cry because tears aren't enough. They aren't enough to replace the promises I had for him, all the promises he made. What were those? They weren't promises. They were LIES! I am laughing at myself right now for being so big a fool. Truly, I was carried away. What a beautiful, deceiving angel he is.
It explains everything.
The sudden cease of his affection.
His denial of us.
And so much more that I cannot mention further.
He could have just told me. It didn’t have to be this bad. And of all ways of hurting me, he chose this, as if I wasn't hurt enough. I knew I was right, and he still had the decency to be upset when it came to trusting.
I'm still strong right now, just like any other fresh wound. But soon, I'll be breaking down..
I don’t hate him, for the sake of our long marriage, though anyone in my position should. If that, he still fails to appreciate then there's definitely something wrong with him.
Being cheated on is the greatest slap in the face I have ever experienced. I have walked away and I am now happy with my children. He has his own family with the other woman.
Sometimes, some marriages don’t work out for some to work. Sadly, I had to be the other one for him to find the one.
His and Her Horoscope
By Riva Riguera
Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)Step outside of your safety zone! Be more experimental to reinvigorate your current relationship with fresh experiences.
Pisces (February 19 – March 20)This month is perfect for romantic escapes, but your desire to live in a world of fantasy may ruin it! Do not plan ahead, just go with the flow.
Aries (March 21 – April 19)You’ll be bursting with energy this month! Go on an adventure and have fun! However, remember to be cautious.
Taurus (April 20 – May 20)Your ability to take the lead can boost your confidence and attract positive attention. Staying calm in unfamiliar circumstances helps avoid an emotional explosion.
Gemini (May 21 – June 21)Control the urge to splurge this month! Spend quality time with the one you love by making a scrumptious home-cooked dinner.
Cancer (June 22 – July 22)
You are number 1 in your lover’s eyes as your kind heart reaches out to everyone. Words of love are always special, but the real connections are made non-verbally now.
Leo (July 23 – August 22)
Loads of surprises are in store for you this month of love! You are bound to create sparks of excitement in your personal life. Don’t forget to thank your spouse.
Virgo (August 23 – September 22)
Avoid getting caught up in minor differences. Kindness and compassion are the keys to your success in love.
Libra (September 23 – October 23)There are waves of excitement unfolding for you this month. Going to extremes in expressing yourself is a better bet than playing too safe now.
Scorpio (October 24 – November 21)Adapting quickly to surprises can get you on board for a romantic ride, but trying too hard to control a situation can stir more anger than amour.
Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)
Think of your current relationship with your spouse and be proud of it! Increase your self-worth and earn more rewards by bonding this month.
Capricorn (December 22- January 19)Boost your self-confidence this month! Graciousness and social diplomacy make you the apple of your lover’s eyes.
Restaurants for Couples
By Gealle Chan
Do you feel like there’s no more spark between you and your spouse anymore? Do you want to let him feel appreciated? Why not ask him for a date night? Here are some restaurants will truly help bring back the romantic feeling between you both.
Sonya's Secret Garden
Sonya’s Garden is another specialty restaurant in Tagaytay City. The restaurant is virtually a greenhouse. The smell of fresh flowers greet you as you enter the place. Home-made pasta, refillable dalandan juice, bowl of salad and dressing is their set menu. A choice of shrimp, chicken, mushrooms, nuts, and other ingredients can be thrown into your pasta with a bowl of jackfruit. Grilled sweet potatoes in caramel sauce dip is a delicious desert to indulge into. Sonya Garden grow their own vegetables and other ingredients.
Going to Tagaytay City is a great de-stressing activity. Beautiful scenic views and mouth-watering delicacies are some of the things that Tagaytay City is known for.
Contact Num:
+63-9175329097 or +63-9175335140
Address:
Barangay Buck Estate, Alfonso, Cavite, Philippines (near the vicinity of Tagaytay City, Philippines)
Email Address:
info@sonyasgarden.com
Website:
http://www.sonyasgarden.com/
Bag of Beans
Thirsting for a cup of coffee? Bag of Beans Cafe in Tagaytay City is the cozy place to head to. Locally brewed coffee is the restaurant’s specialty. Freshly baked pies and cookies are served with hot brewed coffee. Bag of Beans Cafe is a coffee shop as well as a garden restaurant, too. The restaurant has an authentic English menu, including different flavors of home-made pies. Fish and Chips, omelets and sausages, Pies ‘n’ Mash, Bangers, and roast beef are also available. Bag of Beans Cafe’s bottomless cup is a great treat.
Contact Num:
Phone
+63 46 413 4356
+63 46 413 2724
Mobile:
+63923 454 4797
+63920 954 6370
Address:
115 Aguinaldo Highway,
Mendez Crossing West,
Tagaytay City
Email Address:
bagodbeanscoffeeshop@yahoo.com
Website:
http://bagofbeanstagaytay.com
Balducci
Part of the famous L'Opera group, this lovely Italian restaurant is located on Bonifacio High Street at the Fort. The ambiance is great. It is a place to be seen. Your date should try the Bresaola all'arancio con rucola e grana padano. Osso Buco f course is a classic. Although their pasta is good, why would you want to slurp it up on Valentine's day?
Contact Num:
+63.2.856.06.76
Address:
Serendra, The Fort Manila Philippines
Cafe Juanita
Another restaurant off the beaten track, this place really gets away from the crowd. Though parking is very limited, couples still flock to this little corner restaurant for the food and the ambiance that romance lends its magic to. The food is a fusion of Filipino and European cooking. Wine list is not that extensive, but the cozy atmosphere allows anyone dining in its soft toned space to mingle pleasantly without any distractions.
Contact Num:
+63.2.632.03.57
Old Manila
Located at the Peninsula Hotel Manila, the flagship restaurant boasts French cuisine in a space dominated by narra and well appointed dining tables. Must-try is the Truffle crusted veal rib eye. Also of note is the Fine de Claire oysters and the lobster bisque. Wine list is the best available in the area. Do dressup. It's a place to see and be seen.
Contact Num:
+63.2.887.28.88
Address:
1226 Makati City, Metro Manila
Website:
http://www.peninsula.com/Manila/en/Dining/Old_Manila/default.aspx
Marriage Traditions Across the World
by Ali Timonera
Norway
Tucked away in the corners of Europe, Norwegians celebrate their weddings with much gaiety; with festivities lasting 2 to 3 days. Couples wed during the Summer Solstice are believed to have bright futures.The groom and groomsmen wear traditional bunads with designs unique to their ancestry, while the women wear ebony dresses with only hints of color. The bride wears a crown and also wears a circlet of spoon-shaped bangles to ward off bad luck. During the exchange of vows, the kiss does not only seal the deal, but also represents the exchange of a portion of each partner’s souls. And unlike typical wedding receptions, Norwegians engage in great deals of dance, and they have a special wedding cake called a brudlaupskling, a flour cake topped with cream and cheese. Finally, two fir trees are planted by the newlyweds’ home, as a symbol of the children soon to come.
Germany
German weddings are made of three distinct parts. Engaged couples must first hold civil ceremony where only close family and friends may attend. The second phase is the wedding reception where the groom and bride invite all their friends to celebrate. The guests usually bring old ceramic dishes to the party and then smash them on the floor; the groom and bride then pick the pieces up together, symbolizing that they will share their burdens and problems in the future. The third phase is the religious ceremony. As the couple kneels to take their vows, the groom can opt to kneel on top of the bride’s trailing gown as a subtle sign to say that he wears the pants in the relationship. However, the bride can step on her groom’s foot as they stand; if she wants otherwise.
Japan
Japanese weddings rites are Shinto in origin, and thus, are celebrated in Shinto shrines and presided by a Shinto priest. For the entire duration of the wedding, from the formal ritual to the festive reception, the bride has to change into 3 different garments. During the formal exchange of vows, the bride is garbed and made up in white, and her hair is covered in elaborate ornaments to invite happiness to the couple. She wears a white hood that, according to tradition, hides her “horns of jealousy” from her future husband’s mother. And during the wedding reception, she changes into a red kimono, and later again into a western style wedding gown – talk about tiring! The lucky groom on the other hand, only wears a Spartan black kimono throughout the entire celebration.
India
Weddings in India are a serious business. The formal ritual is made of complex steps and varies across castes, and the reception can last for several days and can have up to a whopping 10,000 guests! Most Indian weddings are arranged; typically, the bride-to-be is sent away from home to her betrothed’s house during her pre-wedding preparations, and is given a sari by her groom’s mother to be worn midway through the wedding celebrations. The groom, on the other hand, makes a set of vows to treat his future wife equally and fairly.
Africa
A suitor who asks for a lady’s hand in marriage first has to go through several formalities; he first must earn the family’s approval. This is usually earned either through the success of the suitor’s farm, the number of his titles or rank, and the amount of money he has. If he gains the family’s consent, he gifts his woman of choice with a little money and a kola nut. The bride opens the nut and shares it with the groom, and then sends pieces via a messenger to other families to announce the engagement. The bride is usually bathed in oil then covered in henna tattoos, while men wear amulets that supposedly heighten their attractiveness to their bride.
Top 5 Most Romantic Places in the World
By Joey Concepcion
If there’s any chance you get to win the lottery you should treat your special someone to the most Romantic places in the world! Here is my top 5 most Romantic Spots in the world lets hit it off with Number 5.
Number 5. “Luneta Park” Manila, Philppines
This place is Cultural and Romantic at the same time. During the days when malls and shopping centers were non existent yet In the Philippines “Luneta Park” was the go-to place of Filipinos for leisure and Romance.
Number 4. Maldives
You Love the Beach but you hate the crowd and the prying eyes? Well this Island nation in The Indian Ocean is perfect for you! It stands in the Laccadive Sea, and about 250 miles south-west of India. You never know you might be sharing a private island with a famous celebrity.
Number 3. Santorini, Greece
The greek gods must have loved this place so much. Some of the islands in Santorini are products of major Volcanic eruptions. NOW THAT IS HOT!
Number 2. Venice, Italy
"Serenissima" ,"City of Water", "City of Bridges", "The Floating City" and "City of Canals". Luigi Barzini Of “The New York Times” described it as "undoubtedly the most beautiful city built by man". Whatever it is this could have been easily The Top Pick!
Now the time has come for me to reveal The MOST ROMANTIC PLACE IN THE WORLD..
NUMBER 1. TAJ MAHAL, INDIA
The Taj Mahal is a mausoleum in India. Built by Mughal Emperor Shah Jahan in memory of his third wife, Mumtaz Mahal. It is considered to be one of the most magnificent structures in the world and stands as a symbol of eternal love Emperor Shah Jahan himself described the Taj in these words:
Should guilty seek asylum here,
Like one pardoned, he becomes free from sin.
Should a sinner make his way to this mansion,
All his past sins are to be washed away.
The sight of this mansion creates sorrowing sighs;
And the sun and the moon shed tears from their eyes.
In this world this edifice has been made;
To display thereby the creator's glory.
Now isn’t that romantic? J
Why it all Seems to be Falling Apart
Prime Signals of Incoming Marriage Mayhem
by Ali Timonera
Not every couple realizes their lifelong sentence has slowly slid down into the dumps until they’ve landed on it on their unsuspecting behinds. Some just get up in the wee hours of morning when they get up next to their slumbering partners and realize – it’s all gone to the dumps. You both don’t get through the day without ceaseless arguments waging war on both sides. If the battle goes from bad to worse, the kids might even get a –metaphorical- hit while you both are firing on all pistons and pistols while the forgotten breakfast burns over the stove. And when it goes from worse to worst, you and your partner may have already forgotten about the actual topic that started the civil war and have already begun scrabbling over who gets an equal share of child custody and property.
Well, nobody wants their visions (or delusions, take your pick) of happily ever afters with their hubbies and wifeys blown to smithereens, right? But how can you make a dysfunctional marriage drop dead in its tracks? They come in through the backdoor and sneak up behind you while you least expect it. Some don’t notice how far they’ve plummeted until one of their big-eyed toddlers come waddling up and ask, “Mommy, why do you keep yelling and throwing things at Daddy?” and vice-versa. So how does a wobbly married couple keep themselves in a happy relationship? As doctors always say, prevention is the best medicine. Learn to pick up on the signs of a path to a degrading marriage, and be able to stop them from getting worse. Take them to heart and learn to be sensitive enough to see them when they come strolling by – but don’t be too paranoid. Here are some of the most typical signs of stormy futures if left unattended:
He/She’s keeping financial secrets. And no, not secrets like the latest scandals from the latest celebrity magazine. If you frequently notice your partner toting brand new, expensive gadgets under his/her shoulder or a new appliance had magically affixed itself in the household, and you hadn’t the foggiest idea when you’d gone out to buy one and none of the bizarre products had appeared in your last accounting of household expenses, then you have every reason to confront your spouse on the new intruders. If they sheepishly admit to the purchases, you may want to break it to them that they need to confer with you before splurging big money on big things. Everything you both own are now shared – especially money.
He/She stays out until godly hours – on a regular basis. It’s one thing for working spouses to phone you and say they’ll be late for the night- they have conferences, overdue deadlines and office parties to attend to. But if they start coming home at 3 am and slump on the bed like dropped anchors several times a week with the same (or slightly varied) excuses it’s time to sound the alarms (Unless, of course, your hubby works evening shifts). Normal white collar workplaces run from 8 in the morning to 5 in the afternoon. late night conferences aren’t an everyday thing, nor are overdue deadlines, or office parties. Gently confront your spouse about their late night escapades. But if your queries aim true and they weren’t really telling you what they were actually doing, chances are that they’ll fib to protect themselves from the brunt of an enraged partner. Coax them by saying you won’t be angry if their secret is not a very good one (and mean it!), and you simply want to know what it is that drives them to stay up all night (Be prepared for bad news, just in case).
These are some tips that can probably straighten out a few bumps on your path before they transform into giant roadblocks. Remember, however, that there isn’t a set formula on how to better your relationship, as each relationship is different; with two very different people continuing to meld and clash with two different sets of opinions and mindsets. And lastly, remember that happiness is always attained from a certain kind of attitude – and not a certain kind of circumstances.
How to be Safe at Home
by Charles Malcaba
We all know that with the increasing crime rate in our country that we have to make sure to be safe this is why we need to be serious with the protection of our family so that we will be able to prevent risks that could greatly affect the livelihood of your family.
Here are some steps one can do for the protection of one’s family:
1) When buying a door, one must buy a solid core or metal door for entrances and three locks for each door to provide the intruder much time from messing with your door and also include a peephole in order to know if you know who the person is.
2) In windows, one must use secondary locks in blocking the window from opening, and make the windows higher, so that intruders will not be able to reach it.
3) You also need to acquire trust among your neighbors through communication, and with their trust we can be able to ask for their help when we need them and also help them when they need help.
4) You need to buy a security alarm system for your house to alarm the police for intruders, and it must be turned on all the time because you may never know that they may come anytime in your house.
5) You need to trick intruders by using automatic timers that will turn lights so that intruders will think you’re home, and lower your telephone ringer because it may be heard outside.
6) You should also use the Operation Identification Program by engraving your drivers’ license number on your valuables in order to be easily identified by the police when they are trying to find your stolen valuable.
Through following these steps, one will be able to have a secure home, will have no fear of loss of his/her belongings and will be able to live life normally.
